“You didn’t come this far only to get this far”, “Don’t stop until you’ve had enough”, “Don’t stop when it hurts, stop when you make it”, all these are phrases we’re all familiar to, it’s probably been said to you by a friend trying to advise you at some point of your life…and I’m sad to tell you, it’s terribly wrong.
I want you to look in the mirror and tell me what you see (I mean in a shallow way what do you see), I’m pretty sure, you see a human being, now ask yourself what is a human being capable of? Human beings are capable of almost every great thing, but just like everything else, human beings have a limit. A time when they need to recharge, when they need to rest, and most importantly when they have to quit; there is always a limit that will wreck havoc if exceeded, a conversation that will lead to nothing but heartache if it happened, a person who will mess your life up with his bad intentions if you get too close, there is always a line.
It’s your job to find this line and not cross it, for example: “Don’t stop when it hurts, stop when you make it” they tell you this and make you feel like a complete loser, but they don’t tell you that sometimes if you don’t stop, you’ll be risking your well-being. What’s the point of making it, if you’ll make it with an unhealthy heart? Most importantly what’s the point of making it, if it’s not where you belong?
What saddens me the most about us as humans is the greed that runs in our blood…”Don’t stop until you’ve had enough” let me tell you this, you will not have enough, and “you didn’t come this far only to get this far”, what are they trying to make our lives look like? What if this far is my dream and I’m satisfied? Why are they trying to keep us on the run all the time, making us never satisfied with relationships, or anything in our lives? It’s like, we always need an upgrade…but we don’t, all we need is to live a peaceful life, to enjoy what we are before we change again.
No matter how hard they try to convince you that you’re a loser, don’t listen, quit when you feel like something is destroying you, it’s not bad to have a routine (actually it’s what makes up a part of your identity) for example: he is a bookworm. Now you know that person likes to read, but what if that wave of urgent change got him and he replaced books with chess? Then there’ll be a new person with a new perspective, be who you are, don’t try to race life because I’m telling you life is faster than you think, one day you were a teen singing some boyband song on the top of your lungs, now you’re struggling in your thirties. Take a break, remember your mental health, and fight for what’s worth fighting for…